Sunday, May 31, 2009

What a Mighty God We Serve!!!!

This has been an exciting weekend around the Hampton household, and seeing as there is just two of us, you know it had to be big. I got to have dinner with my besties in Jackson. That is always a treat. We are all so different. I love hearing all of our different opinions. Stephanie and I definitely had a miscommunication in TGIFridays. Looking back now, I can't help but laugh at it. Basically Stephanie ALWAYS likes to sit across from the people that she wants to talk to. Typically there is only three of us, so she ALWAYS likes to sit facing the opening of the restaurant and have the two people across from her. I have recently shared with her that I too enjoy seeing the people walking into the restaurant. To make a long story short, I had sat down in the seat that would have been across from Stephanie and Laura. Bad idea! Stephanie then asked to sit where I was sitting. What she meant was that she was wanted to sit beside me and across from Laura. But Laura and I obviously thought that since she ALWAYS sat on the opposite side of us, Stephanie was asking me (who had already sat down and placed my purse down) to get up from my seat and sit by Laura so she could sit in the seat she preferred. We had a few minutes of bickering which of course ended with me getting up from the seat (I'm a pushover) and the my basically throwing my purse into the booth (barely missing Stephanie's head). It was all a miscommunication, which makes me laugh about how frustrated I really was. We had a good time together after that mishap. We went shopping. I was such a good wife. I bought Andrew 3 dress shirts on sale. All I bought for myself were books in sale because I am stockpiling my books for my trips. Saturday I was woken up early by my husband who wanted to go yard selling or dumpster diving. We did that and didn't find a durn thing and then I went to the Civil Servants breakfast. I am meeting so many cool ppl in the community. I then spent the rest of the day cleaning the floors and having Stephanie and Andrew edit my graduate school application essay. Those two really take care of me. The ppl at Union are going to read my paper and then accept me. When I start writing my own papers though, they are going to think who is this idiot who can't write. I got the application sent in the mail. After I did a happy dance, I rewarded myself with going through a car wash. I love car washes!!! I always have to get the deluxe though because I love LOVE LOVE all the colors that are spit out onto my vehicle!!! Stephanie came up later that day, where I cooked her a thank you meal and we went to Whiteville Lake. We tried to take pictures, but my camera was dead. You wouldn't imagine something so beautiful in a town like Whiteville. Whiteville is ugly, poor, ghetto, and has less stuff than Bolivar. Sunday was D-Day though. Andrew has been asked to be the interim music minister at our church. It's a huge honor to be asked. We don't even know if he's getting paid or not. It would be nice if he did though. We could sure use the moolah. He has been so nervous about it, he hasn't been able to sleep for several days. He has had nightmares about it and walked around the house constantly saying, "Why did I say that I would do this? I'm going going to do this any other Sundays. I think I'm going to be sick." I felt so bad for me. We arrived at church this morning at 9:30. The church service doesn't start until 11:00. Andrew picked his microphone (the sound guy is hard core). Andrew started feeling a lot better once the piano player came in. Shannon really calmed him down by discussing the hymns with him and how she was going to do the intro. Andrew did so well! I was so proud of him. Afterwards, the people at the church came up to me and said that they could tell that he was nervous because I looked nervous for him,haha. I guess that's not too much of a compliment. After it was over, Andrew felt so much better about it and realized that it's not as hard as he was thinking that it was going to be. Whew! I'm glad that this Sunday is almost over. Hopefully we won't have to go through this nervousness again next week.

Friday, May 29, 2009

June!!! It's almost here!!!

I think it's my tradition to write an Ode to every month any why I'm excited about it. This is my second blog today. I might get to write more because I am in the middle of writing my acceptance essay for Union for the Masters in Social Work program. Okay...back to June. I have 2 vacations in June. Count them 1-2! These vacations are paid paid PAID!!!! I'm getting forced to take these vacations as well.

The first vacation will be from June 10th-14th. I'm so excited about this trip. Stephanie and I will be road tripping together to Virginia for Jennifer's wedding. That's very exciting for several reasons:
1. Days and Days of best friend time. Non-stop discussions about boys, jobs, and anything else Stephanie wants to over analyze. This trip also includes dancing in the car and fun stops along the way.
2. I get to stay with Steph's grandparents in Crossville!!!!! I think that I might be more excited about that than the wedding (Sorry Jenn). I have never met them and I feel as if they are my grandparents. I can't wait to hold Gabe and see all the sights.
3. Jennifer is already married, but that doesn't make the wedding any less special. She deserves the day that she wants. I love weddings. I bawl like a baby every time. It's kind of embarrassing, especially when I don't know the couple that's getting married. I am going to emotional support and I just found out today that I will be her guest book attendant. I am the professional guest book attendant.

My second vacation is also very excited. We are going to Park Rapids!!!!!! My happy place. When people say go to your happy place, forget the beaches-Park Rapids, MN is where my brain goes.
1. Andrew, my mother, and I will be road tripping it there. I will have a whole week to spend time with my husband and to sleep in the same bed with him. We haven't had that since the honeymoon. We won't know what to do with each other.
2. I get to see my family. It's so relaxing up there.
3. Pontoon boat
4. Ski boat
5. JET SKI!!!!!!!!!
6. Log Cabin
7. Fireworks off of the dock
8. All of the smells.
9. Phase 10 games
10. Loons waking you up in the morning
11. Fishing
12. Swimming

I haven't been to the lake in a few years. I have been craving this vacation for a long time. Andrew's excited because he will be able to hang out and converse with normal people at normal hours and hang out with my cousin-in-law Matt.



JUNE!! HERE I COME!!!!!!

False Alarm

Andrew and I are slowing looking into buying a home. We have been looking around Bolivar, but really we are waiting to see where Andrew will be working around July. If you buy a house for the first time before December 31st, you get $8,000 in addition to what you get from the IRS. Andrew and I are really interested in foreclosure homes. My boss got a beautiful home for $70,000!! Her home is probably worth way over $100,000. I was looking online yesterday because a house on our street went up for sale and I wanted to see how much it was for. In my hunt I found a $32,000 house (not the one on my street). I was really excited. My mouth dropped.
There had to be some major things wrong with it. From the picture I could tell immediately that the outside of the house needed a new coat of paint, but with the money you save on the house, you can get painters. The house has 4 bedrooms and 3 bathrooms. 3 bathrooms?! There's only 2 of us. I then with high expectations drove to the house. It was on a good street, but the ghetto was behind it. There was a round driveway, a shed in the back and the whole back of the house has been newly added. The negatives are that every window needed to be replaced, the carpet was crappy, and it didn't have the refrigerator or dishwasher. I just saw that from peeping into the windows. Tough luck though. Oh well.

Friday, May 22, 2009

Last day of school and Bacon

Bacon.
It's one of those things that pretty much everybody likes, like chocolate.
My mother insists in cooking with Turkey bacon. Yeah, it's healthier but it's just not the same. Kim just made bacon downstairs in the office. The smell is sweeping up the stairs saying,"Oink Oink. Doesn't that smell good.".....

*the bacon is just as good as it smells. Kim let me have a piece of her bacon.

Today is the last day of school for the children of Hardeman County. What was that like? I don't remember anymore. I remember the excitement. The last day of college was completely different from the last day from regular school. In college, everyone is ready to move out of their dorm. I hated cleaning up the dorm. Does anyone remember the spilt candle wax that was on the floor for half a year? Even when I start grad school, the last day of school still isn't going to be the same because I will be continuing working and my classes will continue in the summer. It's crazy.

Thursday, May 21, 2009

If you had told me...

If you had told me when I was ten years old what I would be like when I was 23, I wouldn't believe you. I would simply say "No way" and go back to reading what every classic novel I was reading at the time. At ten years old, I had buck teeth, big glasses and no friends. I knew that I would never have a boyfriend, even though I dreamed of it daily. I knew that I would never have any good friends. It's amazing how God leads your life in a completely different direction then what was imagined. I think about my friends. Jessica Fuqua (hello Jessica!) would have only hoped to meet her future husband as soon as she did when college began. Sara Coleman, oops, Depew would never had imagined that she was going to meet the man of her dreams while he was chaperoning a youth trip. I would never had imagined that the guy that wore a camo jacket over everything, who wore chains and baggy pants, who scared the living daylights out of me would be my wonderful adoring husband. I bet God laughs at our plans. We probably make him sad because we don't have the faith that God is going to provide a way better than imaginable. That 10 year old girl got braces, contacts, and made very good friends. There are some friends that have moved on and we have drifted up, but I still love them dearly. I love my friend Erika. We found a kindred spirit in each other the day in 5th grade when we bounced around on bean bag chairs singing "Where in the world is Carmen San Diego?" She now is married and has an adorable son.

"For I know the plans for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.' " -Jeremiah 29:11

That verse keeps playing in my head. My best friend in the entire world is struggling with the fact that God is not giving her what she wants more than anything in the entire world. I have never had a friend like this friend. I grew up with friends that I was friends with for a very long time. We didn't hold each other accountable for anything and didn't love each other regardless. Then I found my best friend. This friend has always been an encouragement and willing to play the Devil's Advocate and give you her advice, even when it's not asked for. She takes it personal when people don't listen to her advice and everything goes sour. My best friend is reaching for her goals. She knew that she was going to be "Barbara Walters" (not really). But she knew that since she was very young. Look at what she's doing now! How she can feel that God isn't listening to her prayers. God knows what He is doing. It's not time for her to find her person. She is not meant for small things and living in small cities. She has big dreams that haven't been fulfilled yet!! Why in the world would you want to meet and find the man of your dreams in a town that you don't want to live in. God has something special meant for my friend. Something so special, that she wouldn't even be able to take it all in. God always provides!

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

It's Okay. It's just gas!

No!! It's not okay!! I felt as if I was dying last night. I'm not sure what time I fell asleep last night. I am sure that I drifted off mid-sentence. I was exhausted. I then woke up around midnight to a horrible horrriiibblle HORRIBLE pain under my left boob. What the heck?? I thought that I was just sore from working out earlier. I did work out, so that's a success! I tried to apply pressure to my sore area and I couldn't find a position comfortable enough. I even had a hard time breathing and was a little nauseous. I went to the bathroom and nothing happened. I tried a heating pad. All that did was cause me to be in pain and be hot. I don't think I fell back to sleep until 6:00am. 6:oo AM!!!! I wake up for work at 6:40!!!!!! I would have called in sick, even though I was feeling better but I promised a 5th grader that I would attend her graduation and I had to run my first RCP Advisory Board meeting and call all of my caregivers to remind them about support group tomorrow night. Who can take a day off? Not me! Kim informed me that it was probably trapped gas. She also offered a remedy of getting my finger wet and putting baking soda on my finger and licking it. She says that it's gross but it stops you from having to spend a lot of money on Trapped Gas fixer-uppers. Who knew?? I sure didn't at 5 AM!

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

It's Tuesday!!!!!

I love Tuesdays (sometimes). This particular Tuesday should be a good one. I had to be at the office by 8:00am this morning. That's what time I am supposed to be at the office. Typically I am in the office by 8:10 or even 8:30 if I'm planning on working late. There is no one waiting at the time clock. In fact, we don't even have a time clock. This particular morning though, Kim is at a 5th grade graduation. Apparently in Bolivar, 5th grade graduations are big things. I am going to one tomorrow in fact. The 5th grader is really nervous about her graduation ceremony. "What if I trip?" "What if I throw up?" "What if the girl who is going in front of me doesn't show up and I have to go first?" "What if I cry?" It's amazing to me how important this graduation is to her. In Bolivar, after the 5th grade you have to go to Bolivar Middle School. Which is a normal progression, except if you have never gone to a Bolivar School before because you live in Toone, Whiteville, or Hornsby. Not only are you leaving the school that you have attending since Kindergarten, but you are having to ride the bus for even longer than you used to. I understand the nervousness. Some of the children are acting as if they are graduating from high school or college. I just pretend with the children that their graduation is one of the most important things in the world. I wonder if they hear Vitamin C's Graduation song and get teary eyed? Anywho...back to my Tuesdays. I have VOCA today. We are winding down to the end. That means that right now we are reviewing all the information from the year and discussing our goals and how to achieve them. I have younger VOCA today. They are so sweet (most of the time) and they don't understand that they won't be coming to the center anymore. I hope that I have made a difference in the lives and that they remember my fondly. Maybe I'll be their "Morrie, " like in the book Tuesdays with Morrie (I highly recommend it). Tuesday nights only mean one thing in the Hampton household...aMERican Idol!!!!-I wrote it like that for Stephanie who can't stand Ryan Seacrest. This week is the finals. I don't know if I will be able to handle the stress. I almost couldn't handle it when it was Adam, Danny, and Kris. I don't like Adam. Yeah, he can sing on the right note. Big Whoop! He screams in falsetto. It bothers me to my core. He completely lost me when he sang Ring of Fire. I had to choose between Danny or Kris. That might have been one of the hardest decisions I have ever made. Do I choose the sweet widower who is Christian? or Do I choose the 23 year old who married his high school sweetheart and plays in a praise band? Who do you think I chose? I went with Kris. I related to him and he seems very modest. I spent 30 minutes constantly texting my votes for Kris. While I did make that decision and I was confident with my choice, I was still upset with Danny was sent home. I hope. Rather I Pray that all of the Danny's fans will vote for Kris and beat Adam. I don't care that Adam's gay, I just really don't like to be screamed at and I would never buy his CD. I don't know if I'm going to be able to handle the stress over the next two nights. But tonight is a special night. A tv show that was made for people like me. The dorks who love to sing and dance to show tunes. GLEE is premiering tonight. I hope that it's a good show because I am really really excited about it. I am not ashamed of my excitement because I know that there are others out there just like me who love singing Dancing Queen and the Sound of Music soundtrack. I can't wait!!!

Monday, May 11, 2009

It's Officially Official Now

I am no long Dana Elizabeth Archer according to Social Security records. I am officially Dana Archer Hampton. It was a bigger decision than I thought to change to Dana Archer Hampton or Dana Elizabeth Hampton. Andrew thought I should change it to DEH because everyone in his family has the middle name of Elizabeth. I wanted to keep the Archer though. We have no males in my family and so there are no more Archers. I am considering naming a child Archer. I wonder if it would have been too much to be Dana Elizabeth Archer-Hampton. I know that I haven't lost my identity, but I guess it took me so long to do it (5 months) because I wanted to hold on to that last piece of my childhood. "Today, I am now an adult"-Grey's Anatomy.

Andrew might be arrested. J/K...maybe. Andrew has this horrible memory. He can't tell you very much from his past or remember what you told him 2 days ago, but darn it he can remember numbers. We were sitting very patiently in the Social Security office for about 30 minutes even though they told me it would be a ten minute wait. Andrew got bored and started memorizing the people's numbers who were going to the front desk. He remembered their numbers perfectly. He kept talking ALOUD about how he was planning on going home and searching for their information to steal their credit card information. Um, yeah. Not too smart of an idea. He was completely joking, but the lady sitting in front of us didn't know that. Andrew hadn't even showered and probably looked like white trash to her. So, if my next blog is about bailing my ex-husband out of jail, that's why. That brings up another point. Would I divorce Andrew if he landed in jail? I guess it depends on what he landed in jail for. If it was for murder or rape or something horrendous, then of course I would. But if it was for something stupid, I think he would be okay. Could you imagine introducing him as,"Have you met my husband Andrew? The Convict?" Then I would have return to the Social Security office which is 36 minutes away and get my name changed back. That might be too much of a hassle though. It's something to consider.

Friday, May 8, 2009

How Dare She??!!!!!

There is this great lady that goes to my church. She is really funny and related to one of my favorite people in the world, our office manager Kim. She's not very old, but she has an older son. I'm sure that she has some great stories about her life. I really enjoy hearing what she has to say and I always have tried to sit by her during Discipleship Training.
Not, 15 minutes ago Kim asked me if I talked to this lady much. I told her that I hadn't talked that much to her but I told a funny story about her during graduation Sunday. Kim then shared with me that this particular woman had emailed her asking if I liked her because she thought that I didn't like her because I never talked to her or spoke to her when I saw her. What???!!!!! I think that this lady is great. I have not spoken to her when I saw her at school before, but in my defense I am really bad at recognizing people when I see them in places that I don't expect to see them. I see her at church, not at the elementary school in a suit. There were also about 10 mothers crammed into a small space and I had to check out my kids, not to get home early but because I had a job to do. I was very focused because I HATE checking my kids out at this elementary school because the office workers act put out to assist me in any way. So I'm sorry that I didn't recognize her. I was FOCUSED!!!! She did touch my arm and I was surprised to see her there and spoke briefly. It was loud and crowded and I always go stand by the door so that my children can see me. I wasn't being rude, I was just doing my job. And ANOTHER thing!! I love the women in my class at church. They are some of the sweetest and funniest women I have ever met. The problem is is that I'm still getting to know them and they are comparing funny stories about their children. I don't have children. What stories will I share? I just listen. I really like this woman. Now I feel as if I really have to go out of my way to make her know that I like her, but if I go too far then she will know that Kim told me. Now that I think about it, I did talk to her on Sunday morning. Why wouldn't I like her and why wouldn't she like me? I understand that sometimes people just don't like you. I get that, but normally there's a reason. Sometimes personalities just don't click and it's obvious. This lady and I do click, we just are at different parts in our life and I'm still learning my way around the church dynamics. I am not a rude person. I typically like everyone. I would never dislike someone unless they have done something to me or a friend. UUGGHHHH!!! I guess sending her flowers on Mother's Day is too much. I could always offer to take a test for her since she is trying to get her business degree. Maybe I should go to her son's graduation and invite myself to the graduation party afterwards. What do I need to do? Wash her feet??? I always smile at her and say hello. Next Sunday I will make sure that before we sing in choir that I will have a basin and a washcloth to scrub her feet down real good. Maybe I should skip the washcloth and use my hair. That's a plan...maybe.

Monday, May 4, 2009

HEY! I GOT THE SWINE FLU!!!

Just kidding. I really don't. I understand the seriousness of the disease, but I'm seriously sick of hearing about it. I wonder how many people have gone into doctor's offices with a cold claiming that they KNOW without a shadow of a doubt that they have the swine flu. My extremely hypochondriac friend doesn't even think she has the swine flu. Even she is annoyed by it. That's says a lot.

Here's whats coming up in May:
May 10th-Mother's day. Not sure what I'm doing for the madre. Need to talk to sister about that.

May 16th- Dan and Sara's Wedding. I'm so excited for them!!!

May 17th-Andrew and my singing debut. We have never sang together as a duet. Honestly it scares me. Most people would think that singing with your significant other would bring confidence, but not if your husband is a "Simon Cowell" type of guy. He wanted to do it, so I guess I can't sing too bad. We are singing "Faithful One" by Selah. It actually is a wonderful song and my cousins sang it at our wedding. Hopefully we (I) can do it justice.

Oh yeah. My yearbook teacher from high school passed away. Here is how my cousin told me.

Mollie: Did you hear about Ms. Criswell?
Dana: No. What happened?
Mollie. She had a heart attack this morning.
Dana: What?! How is she?
Mollie: She's not well.
Dana: What do you mean by not well?
Mollie: She died.
Dana: Silence

What a way to tell someone that an old teacher passed away.